Welcome to my website! My name is Dr. Lane Lasater, a retired clinical psychologist. In gratitude for the life I have been given, I want to share with you everything I learned during my career and personal life here on my website http://www.LaneLasater.com and on my YouTube Channel Life Roadmaps from a Retired Psychologist https://www.youtube.com/@lane205 Each post contains my written material, an AI generated graphic summary, an AI generated audio summary, and a short AI video summarizing the material.
This post gives you an introduction to my website and work with people suffering from childhood family trauma.
Here is an AI generated audio introduction to my website:
People most commonly sought help from me for the following problems in living:
- Depression, Anxiety and Grief
- Self-defeating Life Patterns and Addictions
- Romantic Relationship Problems
- Parenting and Family Challenges
- Work and Career Challenges
I discovered in my own life in recovery and in my work with many people that the roots of many of these widespread problems in living often began with painful and sometimes tragic childhood experiences. I identified what I describe as Family Trauma Syndrome, and subsequently specialized in helping people heal from childhood hurts and learn to build fulfilling lives and families once they had access to practical new information, skills and support. As my understanding of Family Trauma Syndrome and Recovery grew, my training in systems from community mental health led me to follow this thread in work with couples, families, schools and other community agencies.
Recovery Goes on for Life
Many of us who were wounded as children must overcome Enduring Emotional Adjustments, Self-Defeating Life Patterns, and Chemical and Behavioral Addictions. Most of us cannot recover until we understand precisely what we faced as children, and how those invisible wounds have shaped our adult lives and relationships. We need guidance and support from our personal network, from self-help organizations, and from psychotherapists.
We don’t become “as good as new” during recovery. Beyond grieving childhood losses, we must acquire effective new habits and skills, learn to listen to our own hearts, and find our unique place in the world of relationships and making a living. However, wonderful gifts emerge when you take the opportunity to heal yourself and learn to care for your inner child self. The process of healing is intrinsically humbling but gives you compassion, hope and wisdom to share with others.
Individual, Family and Community Steps to Recovery are Complicated but Not Impossible
Thankfully, there have been huge advances in our understanding of trauma, its many manifestations, and the process of healing over the last 50 years. I found in my work that my most important tasks were often teaching people about the invisible dynamics that were distorting their lives at home, in schools, at work, and in their communities, and coaching them step-by-step on their journey to health and wholeness. My final work before retiring was publishing two self-help books on Amazon.
The first book, Transcending Family Trauma https: https://www.amazon.com/Transcending-Family-Trauma-Experiences-Fundamental-ebook/dp/B09F4P1LBW/ provides a complete roadmap to recovery. My first series of blog posts will present all the material in this book.
My second book, Smart Happy Love https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Happy-Love-Relationship-Partnership/dp/1737527529/ offers a roadmap to finding and creating a healthy life partnership. I will cover all the material in that book in a subsequent series of blog posts.
There is much more I want to share with you!
These two books above represent the distillation of two central dimensions of my professional work–and I want to share each concept that they include. But there are many more road maps for life and building blocks for relationships, parenting, careers, that I will make available on this website and on my YouTube channel. Utilizing AI, each module I offer is presented as a short video on YouTube, and in written, audible, graphic and video form on this website so you can access this information in whatever modality is most convenient for you.
I am tremendously grateful for all the training I received from wonderful mentors, and the for support, trust and kindness of my clients and recovery friends. It is my hope that the knowledge I have gained can help you understand the challenges you face in healing, romantic relationships, finding fulfilling work, parenting, and maintaining your well-being through the ups and downs of life. Best wishes to you on your life journey and may all your dreams come true!
Disclaimer
This website is designed to give you information to help you be successful in your life decisions and relationships. The information and suggestions provided are for the reader’s education and consideration only. Providing information and practical tools to you about personal and relationship challenges and solutions does not constitute the practice of psychotherapy or medicine. Lane Lasater, Ph.D. has taken care to alert you to serious warning signs and encourage you to seek licensed professional help when indicated. The information provided here is not a substitute for assessment, diagnosis and treatment of any mental disorder and cannot substitute for the services of a mental health care professional or physician. It is intended for instructional purposes only. The use of this information is solely at your own risk.
Trigger and Content Warning: Please be aware that the website includes descriptions of trauma, PTSD, child abuse, alcoholism, family violence, drug addiction, sexual addiction, compulsive behavior patterns including overeating, bulimia, sexual abuse, depression, disability, divorce, anger, sex, and terminal illness which could disturb or trigger upsetting memories for certain readers.
Lane Lasater, Ph.D. shall have no liability for claims by, or damages of any kind to, a user of this information. Such damages include, without limitation, damages for personal injuries, emotional distress, and other non-monetary loss, as well as direct or indirect damages. I have made all reasonable efforts to include accurate information to you but make no warranties or representations as to its accuracy, completeness, or timeliness. Lane Lasater, Ph.D. assumes no liability or responsibility for any errors or omissions in the content of this written and electronic work. To the full extent permitted by law, we disclaim all warranties, express or implied. By using the information on this website, you are agreeing to the provisions of this disclaimer, and you waive all claims that may arise in connection with your use of this information and understand that you use this information at your own risk.